Ndarja e pun\u00ebs emocionale shpesh (por jo gjithmon\u00eb) p\u00ebrputhet me ndarjen tradicionale t\u00eb roleve gjinore. T\u00eb folurit p\u00ebr mosbalancin n\u00eb pun\u00ebn emocionale \u00ebsht\u00eb hapi i par\u00eb p\u00ebr ta tejkaluar at\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nj\u00eb terapist\/e p\u00ebr \u00e7ifte mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb i\/e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr partner\u00ebt q\u00eb duan nj\u00eb zon\u00eb diskutimi pa paragjykime.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nj\u00eb list\u00eb e detyrave t\u00eb pun\u00ebs emocionale mund t\u2019u ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb dy partner\u00ebve t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb se si duket nj\u00eb ndarje e re e pun\u00ebve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Modelimi i nj\u00eb ndarjeje t\u00eb barabart\u00eb t\u00eb pun\u00ebs emocionale n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje krijon nj\u00eb shembull t\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tuaj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dijeni se nuk mund ta kontrolloni pun\u00ebn emocionale t\u00eb partnerit\/es suaj, por mund ta kontrolloni tuaj\u00ebn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Termi \u201cpun\u00eb emocionale\u201d i referohet pun\u00ebs s\u00eb padukshme dhe shpesh t\u00eb n\u00ebnvler\u00ebsuar, t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb n\u00eb mbajtjen e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve t\u00eb lumtur dhe rehat. E p\u00ebrdorur s\u00eb pari nga Arlie Russell Hochschild, soliologe dhe profesoresh\u00eb nderi n\u00eb Universitetin e Kalifornis\u00eb Berkeley, termi fillimisht p\u00ebrdorej p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruar pun\u00ebn e menaxhimit t\u00eb ndjenjave personale n\u00eb kontekst profesional, sidomos n\u00eb pun\u00eb ku ka p\u00ebrballje me publikun ku punonj\u00ebsit\/et punojn\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar nj\u00eb efekt t\u00eb caktuar emocional tek konsumator\u00ebt e tyre (p\u00ebr shembull kur stjuardesat japin bbuz\u00ebqeshje t\u00eb ngrohta q\u00eb t\u2019i b\u00ebjn\u00eb udh\u00ebtar\u00ebt\/et t\u00eb ndihen t\u00eb mir\u00ebseardhur\/a).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sidoqoft\u00eb, n\u00eb p\u00ebrdorim bashk\u00ebkohor, ky term m\u00eb shpesh p\u00ebrdoret p\u00ebr ta p\u00ebrshkruar pun\u00ebn q\u00eb z\u00eb vend n\u00eb sfer\u00ebn familjare, dhe e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme p\u00ebr ta mbajtur rrjedh\u00ebn e pun\u00ebve t\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb. Inicimi i bisedave t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira, menaxhimi i orareve t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, mbajtja mend p\u00ebr t\u2019u d\u00ebrguar kartolina urimi p\u00ebr dit\u00eblindje dhe festa t\u00eb af\u00ebrmve, dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuarit ndihm\u00eb (nganj\u00ebher\u00eb vazhdimisht) p\u00ebr ta zbrazur en\u00eblar\u00ebsen: t\u00eb gjith\u00eb k\u00ebta jan\u00eb shembuj t\u00eb pun\u00ebs emocionale, si\u00e7 definohet shpesh dit\u00ebt e sotme. Kur nj\u00ebri partner b\u00ebn m\u00eb shum\u00eb nga k\u00ebto pun\u00eb sesa tjetri, kjo sigurisht se mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb rrug\u00eb drejt pendimit dhe mospajtimeve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb udh\u00ebzues jan\u00eb konsultuar tre k\u00ebshillues \u00e7iftesh dhe jan\u00eb marr\u00eb pjes\u00eb nga nj\u00eb hulumtim rreth pun\u00ebs emocionale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb dini:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ta kuptoni dinamik\u00ebn<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb partneritete heteroseksuale, puna emocionale shpesh bie mbi grat\u00eb, t\u00eb cilat jan\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht t\u00eb socializuara p\u00ebr ta marr\u00eb p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr jet\u00ebn emoionale t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, sipas Arlie Russell Hochschild. Ajo tha se grat\u00eb shpesh kusht\u00ebzohen t\u00eb jen\u00eb ushqyese dhe t\u2019i l\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00ebnjan\u00eb nevojat e tyre p\u00ebr t\u2019u kujdesur p\u00ebr nevojat e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Por nj\u00eb mosbalanc i pun\u00ebs emocionale nuk bie gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb vijat gjinore. \u201cEdhe n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet e \u00e7ifteve t\u00eb seksit t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00eb, dikush mund t\u00eb thot\u00eb \u2018ti je m\u00eb i\/e mir\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb\u2019 qoft\u00eb n\u00ebse jan\u00eb duke e menaxhuar sht\u00ebpin\u00eb apo duke biseduar p\u00ebr ndjenjat e tyre, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb mb\u00ebshteten n\u00eb personin tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb at\u00eb\u201d, tha Lisa Brateman, psikoterapiste dhe specialiste e lidhjeve n\u00eb Manhattan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ta identifikoni problemin<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb fillimisht e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr ta ngritur \u00e7\u00ebshjen e mosbalancit t\u00eb pun\u00ebs emocionale. N\u00eb fakt, jo gjithmon\u00eb mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e qart\u00eb se cili \u00ebsht\u00eb problemi, vet\u00ebm se ekziston nj\u00eb, tha Desir\u00e9e Robinson, psikoterapiste dhe terapiste e seksit n\u00eb Maryland. \u201cM\u00eb s\u00eb shpeshti, kur shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz vijn\u00eb, ose nj\u00ebri, ose t\u00eb dy partner\u00ebt e din\u00eb se di\u00e7ka nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb rregull\u201d, tha Robinson. \u201cMbase nuk jan\u00eb aq t\u00eb lumtur sa ishin dikur. Mund ta ndjenj\u00eb q\u00eb di\u00e7ka po mungon. Grindjet e tyre po ndodhin m\u00eb shpesh, dhe shpesh \u00ebsht\u00eb e nj\u00ebjta grindje, pa ndonj\u00eb zgjidhje.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n Por nganj\u00ebher\u00eb situata \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. Nj\u00eb mosbalanc i madh n\u00eb sasin\u00eb e pun\u00ebs emocionale q\u00eb e ndajn\u00eb dy njer\u00ebz \u201cmund t\u00eb \u00e7oj\u00eb n\u00eb lodhje psikike, ngopje, apati, indinjat\u00eb, madje edhe p\u00ebrbuzje,\u201d tha Dr. Andice Hargons, Ph.D., asistente n\u00eb Universitetin Kentucky dhe psikologe e licensuar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ajo tha se jan\u00eb disa pyetje q\u00eb mund t\u2019i shtroni p\u00ebr ta p\u00ebrcaktuar se cili partner po kryen m\u00eb shum\u00eb pun\u00eb emocionale. Kur nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb s\u00ebmuret, k\u00eb e k\u00ebrkon ai apo ajo? Kur fillon ndonj\u00eb grindje, deri n\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb mase p\u00ebrpiqet gruaja ta ruaj\u00eb egon e burrit?<\/p>\n\n\n\n T\u00eb flisni me partnerin\/en tuaj<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Pasi q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb identifikuar problem, duhet t\u00eb flisni me partnerin\/en tuaj se \u00e7far\u00eb doni \u2013 dhe \u00e7far\u00eb nuk jeni duke marr\u00eb. \u201cUa b\u00ebj t\u00eb qart\u00eb t\u00eb dyja pal\u00ebve se secili prej nesh duhet t\u00eb jemi p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebs\/e p\u00ebr veten p\u00ebr k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb tone, p\u00ebr nevojat tona dhe p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00eb duam t\u00eb shohim\u201d, tha Robinson. \u201cMendoj se nganj\u00ebher\u00eb i marrim disa situate t\u00eb caktuara si pun\u00eb emocionale: \u2018Nuk duhet as t\u00eb pyes \u2013 ata duhet ta din\u00eb.\u2019 Dhe nganj\u00ebher\u00eb partneri\/ja juaj nuk e di. Disa gj\u00ebra duhet v\u00ebrtet t\u2019i thoni.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Robinson thot\u00eb se \u00e7iftet duhet ta p\u00ebrcaktojn\u00eb se si duan t\u00eb ndihen apo si duan t\u2019u ec\u00ebn dita. Pastaj duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u2019ia thon\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb partnerit\/es s\u00eb tyre dhe t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb hapur\/a ndaj marr\u00ebveshjeve. Edhe kontrollet jan\u00eb kritike. Robinson sugjeron nj\u00eb bised\u00eb 20 minut\u00ebshe n\u00eb jav\u00eb ku ju dhe partneri\/ja juaj i diskutoni pyetjet qen\u00ebsore: \u201cA e kemi arritur q\u00ebllimin e caktuar? \u201cA jemi ndjer\u00eb t\u00eb st\u00ebrngarkuar? \u201cSi mund t\u00eb t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtes m\u00eb mir\u00eb?\u201d, tha Robinson. <\/p>\n\n\n\n T\u00eb k\u00ebrkoni p\u00ebrkrahje t\u00eb jashtme<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb duhet dikush i jasht\u00ebm q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb neutral p\u00ebr ta ofruar nj\u00eb perspektiv\u00eb. Ta vizitoni nj\u00eb therapist\/e \u00e7iftesh mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb zgjedhje e mrekullueshme n\u00ebse ju dhe partneri\/ja juaj jeni duke k\u00ebrkuar nj\u00eb zon\u00eb pa paragjykime p\u00ebr t\u00eb biseduar p\u00ebr sfidat tuaja dhe t\u00eb pranoni udh\u00ebzime konkrete se si t\u2019i barazoni \u00e7far\u00ebdo mosp\u00ebrputhjesh n\u00eb n\u00eb pun\u00eb. Hargons tha se terapia e \u00e7ifteve mund t\u2019i ndihmoj\u00eb personit q\u00eb merr p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr m\u00eb pak pun\u00eb emocionale q\u00eb t\u2019i identifikoj\u00eb dhe t\u2019i komunikoj\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb nevojat e tij\/saj dhe t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb si t\u2019i p\u00ebrmbush\u00eb nevojat e veta emocionale.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cKjo mund t\u2019i ndihmoj\u00eb personit q\u00eb merr p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr m\u00eb shum\u00eb pun\u00eb emocionale ta kuptoj\u00eb se si erdhi n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimit se k\u00ebto ishin p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi e veta, dhe t\u00eb filloj\u00eb t\u00eb heq\u00eb dor\u00eb nga disa aspekte q\u00eb nuk i sh\u00ebrbejn\u00eb mir\u00eb.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Por sipas Robinson, kjo mund t\u00eb realizohet vet\u00ebm n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie q\u00eb krijohen n\u00eb rrafshe t\u00eb barabarta, e jo n\u00eb ato abuzive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ta b\u00ebni nj\u00eb list\u00eb t\u00eb detyrave t\u00eb pun\u00ebve emocionale<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00eb form\u00eb e pun\u00ebs emocionale \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u2019ia rikujtoni partnerit\/es q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb di\u00e7ka \u2013 e njohur edhe si bezdisje. P\u00ebr ta shmangur zem\u00ebrimin q\u00eb vjen nga bezdisja, dhe p\u00ebr t\u2019u ndihmuar t\u00eb dy partner\u00ebve ta kuptojn\u00eb se si duket ndarja e re e pun\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre, shum\u00eb terapist\u00eb\/e \u00e7iftesh sugjerojn\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb krijohet nj\u00eb list\u00eb e detyrave. Nj\u00ebjt\u00eb me list\u00ebn e pun\u00ebve t\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, kjo list\u00eb e detyrave mund t\u2019i ndaj\u00eb pun\u00ebt emocionale m\u00eb t\u00eb diskutueshme nd\u00ebrmjet partner\u00ebve p\u00ebr ndarje t\u00eb qart\u00eb t\u00eb roleve. Mbase nj\u00ebri partner e zbraz en\u00eblar\u00ebsen, e mbik\u00ebqyr koh\u00ebn e detyrave t\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb dhe shkruan letra fal\u00ebnderimi, nd\u00ebrsa tjetri i paguan faturat, merret me koh\u00ebn e gjumit dhe jua rikujton f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u2019i th\u00ebrrasin gjysh\u00ebrit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n T\u00eb fokusoheni t\u00eb ndryshimin e personit q\u00eb mund ta kontrolloni: vetveten<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u00ebse partneri\/ja juaj nuk mundet apo nuk d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb marr\u00ebveshje p\u00ebr k\u00ebto detyra, ende ka mund\u00ebsi ta ndryshoni jobalancin n\u00eb pun\u00ebt emocionale. \u201cE bukura e dinamik\u00ebs s\u00eb \u00e7ifteve \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00ebse nj\u00ebri person ndryshon, \u00e7ifti ka ndryshuar\u201d, tha Hargons. \u201cN\u00ebse personi q\u00eb merr pr\u00ebsip\u00ebr m\u00eb shum\u00eb pun\u00eb emocionale ndjek terapi individuale dhe m\u00ebson se si t\u00eb heq\u00eb dor\u00eb nga disa prej p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsive t\u00eb pun\u00ebs emocionale, personi tjet\u00ebr ka zgjidhje ose ta gjej\u00eb nj\u00eb partner\/e tjet\u00ebr, ose t\u00eb filloj\u00eb t\u00eb merret me nevojat e tyre emocionale dhe nevojat e familjes n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb tjet\u00ebr.\u201d Por n\u00ebse nj\u00ebri partner nuk d\u00ebshiron t\u2019u p\u00ebrshtatet ndryshimeve t\u00eb tjetrit, ai\/ajo q\u00eb merr p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr m\u00eb shum\u00eb pun\u00eb emocionale mund t\u00eb zgjedh\u00eb t\u00eb largohet, tha ajo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nga: Britni de la Cretaz p\u00ebr The New York Times<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ky artikull \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrkthyer nga SIT n\u00eb kuad\u00ebr t\u00eb nism\u00ebs \u201cAksione n\u00eb komunitet p\u00ebr t\u00eb promovuar lejen prind\u00ebrore\u201d n\u00eb kuad\u00ebr t\u00eb projektit \u201cDialog social p\u00ebr drejt\u00ebsi shoq\u00ebrore\u201d q\u00eb implementohet nga Demokraci p\u00ebr zhvillim [<\/em>Democracy for Development (D4D)<\/em><\/a>], financohet nga Qendra Nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtare<\/em> Olof Palme International Center<\/em><\/a> dhe mb\u00ebshtetet nga Qeveria Suedeze.<\/em> Ju mund t\u00eb merrni hapa konkret\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i ndar\u00eb pun\u00ebt emocionale me partnerin tuaj n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb barabart\u00eb \u2013 duke filluar nga t\u00eb folurit haptas lidhur me dinamik\u00ebn e pun\u00ebs. Ideja Ndarja e pun\u00ebs emocionale shpesh (por jo gjithmon\u00eb) p\u00ebrputhet me ndarjen tradicionale t\u00eb roleve gjinore. 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