Koncepti ka ekzistuar gjithmon\u00eb. Por papritur, termi duket t\u00eb shfaqet gjithandej.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cDeri m\u00eb tani gj\u00ebja m\u00eb e keqe q\u00eb ua b\u00ebjm\u00eb meshkujve \u2013 duke i b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb ndjehen se duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb \u2013 \u00ebsht\u00eb se i l\u00ebm\u00eb me ego shum\u00eb t\u00eb pasigurt.\u201d \u2013 Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, shkrimare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u00ebr dekada me radh\u00eb kemi p\u00ebrdorur terme si \u201cma\u00e7o\u201d, e t\u00eb ngjashme, p\u00ebr ta p\u00ebrshkruar llojin e maskulinitetit t\u00eb vrazhd\u00eb q\u00eb burrat deri n\u00eb nj\u00eb mas\u00eb, pritej t\u00eb synonin t\u00eb ishin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Tani e kemi \u201cmaskulinitetin toksik\u201d \u2013 nj\u00eb shprehje q\u00eb nj\u00ebher\u00eb u ndalua n\u00eb klas\u00ebt e studimeve mbi grat\u00eb, q\u00eb papritmas duket t\u00eb jet\u00eb gjithandej.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Para disa muajsh, kompania e brisqeve \u201cGillette\u201d ka lansuar nj\u00eb reklam\u00eb t\u00eb titulluar \u201cNe Besojm\u00eb: M\u00eb e Mira q\u00eb Burrat Mund t\u00eb Jen\u00eb\u201d, nj\u00eb ndryshim i slloganit t\u00eb tyre t\u00eb kahmotsh\u00ebm \u201cM\u00eb e Mira q\u00eb nj\u00eb Burr\u00eb Mund t\u00eb Marr\u00eb.\u201d Reklama sfidon shikuesit q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrballen me #MeToo (Fushat\u00ebn kund\u00ebr dhun\u00ebs seksuale #EdheUn\u00eb) dhe \u00e7\u00ebshtjet e \u201cmaskulinitetit toksik\u201d q\u00eb manifestohen me bulliz\u00ebm dhe ngacmime n\u00eb rrug\u00eb . Reklama sugjeron q\u00eb burrat ta braktisin mentalitetin \u201cdjemt\u00eb do t\u00eb jen\u00eb djem\u201d (boys will be boys) dhe n\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi nga burrat tjer\u00eb p\u00ebr q\u00ebndrimet dhe sjelljet misogjene.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u00ebrve\u00e7 reagimeve pozitive dhe miliona shikimeve n\u00eb YouTube dhe Twitter \u2013 reklama poashtu ka nxitur edhe nj\u00eb mori reagimesh t\u00eb ashpra, duke p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb thirrje p\u00ebr bojkotim t\u00eb firm\u00ebs Gillette.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Reklama doli disa dit\u00eb pasi Shoqata Amerikane e Psikolog\u00ebve (SHAP) i lansoi udh\u00ebzimet e para p\u00ebr psikolog\u00ebt\/et q\u00eb punojn\u00eb me djem dhe burra q\u00eb jan\u00eb m\u00ebsuar t\u2019i p\u00ebrshtaten \u201cideologjis\u00eb s\u00eb maskulinitetit tradicional\u201d \u2013 e cila thuhet se i pengon ata nga eksplorimi i kuptimit t\u00eb t\u00eb qenit mashkull \u2013 si dhe nj\u00eb artikull n\u00eb The Times p\u00ebr nj\u00eb grup roker\u00ebsh heteroseksual\u00eb q\u00eb po kund\u00ebrshtojn\u00eb nocionet e vjetra t\u00eb burr\u00ebris\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cGjith\u00eb k\u00ebto norma q\u00eb i shohim nuk jan\u00eb aspak normale,\u201d tha Xhoi Talbot, k\u00ebng\u00ebtari kryesor i grupit britanez Idles. \u201c\u00cbsht\u00eb g\u00ebnjesht\u00ebr gjigante.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pra \u00e7ka do t\u00eb thot\u00eb \u201cmaskuliniteti toksik\u201d, apo \u201cideologjia e maskulinitetit tradicional\u201d? Hulumtuesit e kan\u00eb definuar, pjes\u00ebrisht, si nj\u00eb varg i sjelljeve dhe besimeve q\u00eb p\u00ebrfshijn\u00eb:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Shtypje t\u00eb emocioneve apo maskim i shqet\u00ebsimit;<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mbajtja e nj\u00eb pamjeje t\u00eb ngurt\u00ebsis\u00eb;<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dhuna si tregues i fuqis\u00eb (sikurse: sjellja \u201ctip i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb\u201d).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Me fjal\u00eb tjera: Maskuliniteti toksik \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb mund t\u00eb vij\u00eb nga m\u00ebsimi i djemve se nuk duhet t\u2019i shprehin emocionet haptaz; q\u00eb ata duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb \u201ct\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb gjat\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00eb koh\u00ebs\u201d; q\u00eb \u00e7kado tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebrve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj i b\u00ebn t\u00eb duken \u201cfem\u00ebror\u201d apo t\u00eb dob\u00ebt. (Jo, nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb burrat jan\u00eb qen\u00ebsisht toksik.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jan\u00eb k\u00ebto m\u00ebsime q\u00eb nd\u00ebrlidhen me kultur\u00ebn, sipas SHAP-s\u00eb q\u00eb lidhen me \u201cagresivitetin dhe dhun\u00ebn\u201d, duke i l\u00ebn\u00eb djemt\u00eb dhe burrat n\u00eb \u201crrezik joproporcional p\u00ebr disiplin\u00eb shkollore, sfida akademike dhe dallime sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore\u201d, duke p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb problemet kardiovaskulare dhe abuzimin me substanca.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cBurrat jen\u00eb tejet t\u00eb pranish\u00ebm n\u00eb burgje, kan\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa sesa grat\u00eb p\u00ebr kryerjen e krimeve t\u00eb dhunshme dhe jan\u00eb n\u00eb rrezik tejet t\u00eb madh q\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb viktima t\u00eb krimit t\u00eb dhunsh\u00ebm\u201d, shkroi SHAP.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ueid Dejvis, ish lojtar i N.F.L. i cili tani u flet p\u00ebr pabarazin\u00eb gjinore dhe maskulinitetin burrave n\u00eb kompani si Google, Netflix dhe N.F.L., tha se nuk ka agjent\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u ndihmuar burrave t\u00eb ballafaqohen me k\u00ebto \u00e7\u00ebshtje sesa burrat tjer\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cNuk mendoj se \u00ebsht\u00eb puna e grave\u201d, m\u00eb tha s\u00eb voni. \u201cMendoj se \u00ebsht\u00eb puna e burrave sikurse un\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb flasin me v\u00ebllez\u00ebrit, baballar\u00ebt, miqt\u00eb tan\u00eb.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jan\u00eb burrat individualisht, vazhdoi ai, ata q\u00eb \u201cdo t\u00eb duhet, n\u00eb nj\u00eb pik\u00eb, t\u00eb vendosin se si ta definojn\u00eb burr\u00ebrin\u00eb dhe maskulinitetin p\u00ebr vete.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nga: Maya Salam p\u00ebr \u201cThe New York Times\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ky artikull \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrkthyer nga SIT n\u00eb kuad\u00ebr t\u00eb nism\u00ebs \u201cAksione n\u00eb komunitet p\u00ebr t\u00eb promovuar lejen prind\u00ebrore\u201d n\u00eb kuad\u00ebr t\u00eb projektit “Dialog social p\u00ebr drejt\u00ebsi shoq\u00ebrore” q\u00eb implementohet nga Demokraci p\u00ebr zhvillim [<\/em>Democracy for Development (D4D)<\/em><\/a>], financohet nga Qendra Nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtare<\/em> Olof Palme International Center<\/em><\/a> dhe mb\u00ebshtetet nga Qeveria Suedeze. <\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Koncepti ka ekzistuar gjithmon\u00eb. Por papritur, termi duket t\u00eb shfaqet gjithandej. \u201cDeri m\u00eb tani gj\u00ebja m\u00eb e keqe q\u00eb ua b\u00ebjm\u00eb meshkujve \u2013 duke i b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb ndjehen se duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb \u2013 \u00ebsht\u00eb se i l\u00ebm\u00eb me ego shum\u00eb t\u00eb pasigurt.\u201d \u2013 Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, shkrimare. P\u00ebr dekada me radh\u00eb kemi p\u00ebrdorur […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":915,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-914","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blogs"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sit-ks.org\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/914","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sit-ks.org\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sit-ks.org\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sit-ks.org\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sit-ks.org\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=914"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/sit-ks.org\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/914\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":917,"href":"https:\/\/sit-ks.org\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/914\/revisions\/917"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sit-ks.org\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/915"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sit-ks.org\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=914"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sit-ks.org\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=914"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sit-ks.org\/sq\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=914"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}